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Ive battled back and forth about blogging about this subject for months.  And I think Ive come to a point where it needs to be talked about.  Females and body image. Image As most of you know, I own a vintage clothing boutique in Portsmouth New Hampshire.  I see between 30 and 100 women a day come in and out of my shop - I hear their conversations, answer their questions and talk to them about sizing.  I also have a social media presence on Facebook and other SM outlets, so I read the comments and answer the same sizing questions there too. I guess what I want to say without beating around the bush is:  Can we stop talking about other womens body sizes?  No matter how big or small, no matter if she has a 23" waist or a 32" waist, regardless if she has boobs or not.  Can we, please - stop? A day doesnt go by when I dont hear, "Oh my goodness!  A 24" waist!!  That girl is so tiny!" - when referring to Lauryn, the lovely (and quite healthy) young woman who models for the shop.  And it bothers me to no end when I hear it.  Why?  What's wrong with having a 24" waist?  or a 42" waist?  Who cares what her waist size is.  Who cares what your waist size is, now or 15 years ago.  I often wonder if those same women would say the same thing about that woman with the 42" waist, out loud and in a public forum.  I would imagine not.  So why the double standard? Why is it OK to openly remark about the smaller girls size/measurements?  Is it because the smaller waist is ideal based on what the media portrays as "ideal"? Sometimes when women pass through the racks, they say something out loud like, "A 26" waist!?  Who wears that size?!" - I answer with, "Lots of girls." - once In a while I get a response of, "well those girls arent normal."  And even though I wear a size 12, those comments bother ME because I have friends and customers of all shapes and sizes, even some with 26" waists. Im sorry if this is coming off a little venty - but it has really bothered me for quite some time now.  And I really want us women to stop fussing over our bodies.  Be happy with your body, and if youre not, thats fine - but dont talk about other womens bodies. So lets just stop it, OK?

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  • sov on

    thank you! we get this all the time in the shop. As if girls with 24" waists no longer exist in this world? “oh everything was so much smaller back then…” If I had a dime for every time we heard this. (As they conveniently pass by the 1950’s dress with the 40" waist) Body shaming happens to all women, large and small, and I agree that enough is enough!

  • ami on

    Such a good point of view! :)

  • Sarah on

    Thank you! I was (very publicly) pregnant three times over the last seven years and each time I gained some weight and then bounced back to my original weight quite well. I am so thankful for that because it is hard enough to feel comfortable in a body you’ve had your whole life and MUCH harder to feel comfortable in a body that has seen the warpath of childbirth, as wonderful an experience as that may be. What bothered me was how people felt the NEED to constantly comment on my shape. When I was pregnant it was either, “you’re huge!” or “you’re so small!” I heard both just as often, even though I was always right where I should be. It was even worse after the babies were born. Everybody felt it was ok to scan me up and down and declare how great I looked, especially women! As if it was okay to comment on my body because the comment was positive. So I am here to say that even compliments make me feel objectified and uncomfortable and I wholeheartedly agree that everybody needs to just stop.

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